Trying to write this post...for some reason the only thing in my mind is "whining". Yes. WHINEing. I guess whining makes me angry ☺. The thing I have "come to" in a very scientific (ha!) process of trial and error, learning and failing IS that there is always a "why" to the whine. A "whine" is like a red alert light coming on FLASHING that something IS not right. Hungry? Thirsty? Tired? Not feeling good? Scared? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Just in NEED of some one-on-one quality snuggle time and attention? Quite a few years ago, I started noticing a pattern each time we went "out" to a (new), busy with people place (such as a mall) that someone little in our family would fall to pieces and "whine". It was frustrating and (possibly) made me "feel" angry as family fun outing+whine=unhappy mommy. Two plus 2 with prayerful consideration eventually brought me to the realization that this little one was feeling overwhelmed by all the people, lights, noise. For the following few years we took the extra 3 to 14 minutes to load (and unload) sweet little girl's baby doll stroller, buckle in one, two, or three baby doll's, and repeat. Negative energy "harnessed". No more whine, and in time no more need for baby stroller distraction.
Why did I spend all this time talking about whining? I think that anger is also a "signal". Every human being will experience anger. (perhaps be concerned if you do not). Anger is a sign that something is NOT right. Here is a GREAT resource to work through with your spouse, children, self.
This is not a "churchy", just "get over it", "be happy, happy, happy" resource. Dr. Les Carter is a nationally known expert (and specialist) in understanding emotions and relationships. Dr. Frank Minirth holds doctorate degrees in both medicine and theology.
It IS a book that you "work" through. You will learn to recognize the many faces of anger. Practical. I would even say that this book will be a great benefit in parenting. (Sometimes we "provoke" our children because we try to eliminate the "alarm" without finding the source.)
*does impatience comes over me more frequently than I would like?
*do I nurture critical thoughts quite easily?
*is sarcasm a trait I use in expressing humor?
*have I been known to take an "I don't care attitude" toward others?
"When anger is expressed improperly
it not only fails to achieve its goal,
it hinders us from connecting effectively with others." p.233
I received a copy of this book for the purpose of review
I received a copy of this book for the purpose of review
